The Irony...

     In a new movie plot,  many individuals who have celebrated their heterosexual unions desired genuine companionship and fidelity.  The nature of male-female relationship is dissected on a continual basis in the news and in the media and, without a doubt, our natures are very divergent. The simple matter of two people enjoying a faithful union with genuine friendship as heterosexuals is discussed in a problematic fashion on a daily basis. While the need for fidelity with your male or female heterosexual partner( depending on your gender) remains constant, the desire for approval from your social support network remains. They may ask  you questions that make you think twice about your choice, your love and time investment.  They may end up being with him after you break up.  The magazines used to sell  and market soap may also inject the same doubt about fidelity so that after a few generations, everyone is wondering whether they are entitled to have a spouse or if it is for them in the roll of life’s dice or odds to have one. A transatlantic flight carries the same odds but you have to have faith before you buy the ticket and get on the plane. If you wish to survive the flight, you follow the instructions of the journey and you will not open the plane door or crack windows. You want the flight to work.  A relationship is just the same with the time of the game or of life being a generally fixed constant. You can’t live for 203 years.  There are ways in which to increase the odds for success in relationship. Try 1st Corinthians 13. The success has nothing to do with his (your man’s) stomach or yours although your stomach is nice and natural or tight. It doesn't really matter if you are in love.

The truth is that some people have chosen companionship as their motive for certain types of union and with fidelity if certain other unions are being painted as doomed with a 50/50 success rate and as likely to end in divorce. Sharing time is not soo difficult but it might be if you were taught to think of every potential spouse as a dog (as in "...all men are dogs.").  While public school graduation is a milestone, a divorce should not be conceived in this casual fashion. It is not a milestone.  But, certainly the desire for fidelity is natural but unfortunately fidelity with the opposite gender is conceived of as something potentially risky but so his water skiing with the fear of loss and of being hurt. I am not sure if these fears exist for those who have promoted and celebrated new forms of union (gay or cross-mammal(coming soon) or cross-corporate person( like marry a charity or a bank-they get your pension etc upon death but they have to consent-you might not  leave the bank but who knows when the bank might leave you ) but such risks must exist. The issue may be that the purpose of intimacy between a man and woman was and is being devalued and the abusiveness behind such devaluation being depicted in the media  has led to nothing more than a culture of seeking control and power over others.  Games remain as social outlets and there are winners and losers. But this is not how one should conceive of relationships; as a competition to be chased vigorously with competitiveness as to who is the better person with more social approval and accolades. Who is setting the game course or the tests for triumph? You might find that no one else is playing  the game but you and you have spent soo much time judging and devaluing someone who may not even know you although he might be on a list as a potential spouse to someone somewhere simply because he is alive. But, there is no such list really except in Heaven where God will answer his need for companionship and yours. It's just that you should not go to Tim Hortons if you do not expect a cup of coffee. You should not play hockey if you do not expect to be able to skate. You should not get into a relationship if you do not believe you can love( forgive, accept, be forgiven and accepted) anyone or that it will always end in disappointment. Your negative expectations could be molded on untimely formative experiences that have set a strand of confusion in your appreciation of intimacy. You want to enjoy intimacy and seek after such contact but the negative foundation leads you to doubt and run from the person you chose to share such privacy. You are pregnant now for the third time and you always leave with news of the conception.  You need to forgive the negative experience and re-associate intimacy with the positive purpose and experience for which it was designed without the aspects of abuse and power or control but where you can enjoy the choice and happiness of being with someone who cares for you and the joy of being accepted accordingly.   Then without any healing or forgiveness, you meet someone else and skate around the rink again just hoping for the sensation of scoring the goal. Why not stay with the person who patiently worked with you to the point of the goal; and they scoreeeeeeeed!!!! You are the HNIC addict. But, you could have the commitment, safety and fidelity you seek or is it just a sensation you desired and a few milestones such as a marriage photo, two children and a divorce? It is ironic but as you might be asked by someone who you note often as a great high school or church friend, "...what did you really want from your perfect match on the E-harmony website?  You broke up after every 10th month and you are doing it again with someone new. No body is perfect!?!"  

The further irony is that the traditional family and the concept has gone through such a de-structuring where people are being individualized and compartmentalized with repeated bombardments of divisive messages and images concerning the opposite gender and the notion of a fidelis (google it) union.   Is there an old nuclear test site victim who is angry with people being able to enjoy relationships with the opposite gender who might be living in a cave some where being kept alive and suggesting quite negative media articles about male-female relationships?   But, let us celebrate our milestones. Enjoy your unions, regardless of how you uh umm conceive of them,  and take lots of  16-28 mega-pixel photos on vacation since there is only "One life to live."         

Who said everyone was going to enjoy the opportunity for breath that God gave you?   

It is the continuing policy of Londinium TV Channel to discuss everything in a light hearted manner and to let everyone know that homosexuals are human beings. It is also to share the gospel. They should be as well respected in public as any bible believing Christian. Hatred is not tolerated against homosexuals and nor should anyone tolerate anyone, including homosexuals, perpetrating crimes of anger, passions and violence. 
Warren Lyon, Editor.
Londinium TV Channel.