Use a phone.

According to Donkor and Bevere( very popular names in sociologial/academic circles),

Cellphone culture has presented new phenomena in human behavior and value structures. It is  now a function of mammon in addition to safety.  Many young women who frequent the church may not realize the extent to which mammon and image has infiltrated the simplest expectations of faith, community and the  appreciation of others.

One is respected for having a phone for safety. He is appreciated for keeping the phone on during his entire day  and when travelling. How would anyone know if his phone is on? If his phone is on or off, how will anyone know?  Some women in church circles may have forgotten the importance of respecting the fellow member as a joint heir in Christ regardless of his cell phone usage or the brand of phone. The Lord is no respecter of personalities and values all regardless of shoe brand or type. How many blessed worship leaders are wearing well-adorned shoes from Payless or possibly Marshalls? They know the reason as to why they sing.

Unfortunately, as we move away from certain experiences in life by virtue of faith, let us not forget that no individual is valued by his possessions.  In addition, no one's faith is valued in terms of one's accumulation of material wealth. Material possessions and their accumulation is not the yard stick of faith. It is quite evident that the Apostles spoke as learned men by the power of the Holy Spirit although they were not formally educated. It was noted by Jewish observers that they must have spent time with Christ who was formally educated. Great swelling words must be contrasted with the speech of learned men in that the intention of swelling words is not anchored in service or ministry to plant, water and share the word of Christ. It is also quite noted that apostles have very short life spans in the bible; much like those secret agent types in the movies; always facing some attack from the uh enemy as it were( He( the enemy) is always seeking another opportune moment and beware if all men speak well of you and your works).

One must be mindful of the impact that media may have on one's personal outlook.  Everyone needs a sense of approval. Read John 5. But, being weary of the way in which adulterated expectations may lead to disappoint in the simplest of human interactions is important. A mobile phone is for safety Who cares if it is naff?   Many of us have church education and formal schooling. Some of us do not, but the manner in which our expectations are being defrauded has led to many a couple being under-prepared for the realities of relationships while we choose suitable partners for qualities such as ownership of excitingly designed and coveted technology ( studies show that women prefer men with the most update gadgets). After the gadgets get old, what happens to the relationship? After dating and being excitedly happy, you have to share an iron and ironing board or a coffee maker but the extent of one's emotional preparation is quite surficial. Most marriages survive the depth of a popcorn courtship, dvd dates and cooking meals. But, as soon as someone has to reflect on the sharing of domestic chores, there is inexplicable breakdown and fear of failure. The media( Gattaca College( ten commandments of communal living-as clones are people too!), has not prepared the average Barbie and Ken doll owner for this simple division of labour. The shock of realizing that the best dough maker in the wedded bliss may not iron as well as the best car washer but who cares? It is called division of labour in that small space since you may make better coffee and find better soap deals. Let him iron since he had to do it at school on his own for many years. He is very good at it.  

 Crazy Stupid Love( movie) and Love Actually(movie) broached some of these issues but your own union did not last three years because of a personal fear of failure over ironing boards and irons that cost $10.99 each. How much was the caterer for the wedding? What about the cost of your bible study manuals? Be happy and recognize that our social preparedness is not matching or commensurate to the forecasted, simple and obvious requirements of wedded enjoyment with a member of the opposite gender. You may not fear a member of the same sex criticizing your ironing as you are taught that friends give you agape love as you are told. But, a wife or husband of the opposite gender also gives agape love and should be expected to do so. If a child comes along in the natural copulation with your best friend of the opposite gender, thank God. Remember Elizabeth and Zachariah.   You may pray that the right man will find you and your apartment building and just knock on your door. All you did is meet him once at Starbucks. Yes; I know you heard a testimony but the word says keep knocking, asking and seeking. Expecting him to knock on your door is a perfect way to keep seeking and its not soo practical.        

Use a phone.

Use a phone!