So, in some relational contexts you cannot love anyone enough; that is love them enough so that they would actually love themselves and quit burdening anyone they date or anyone with whom they've mated with their need for constant assurance that they are lovable. They would break up in fear of being left or rejected simply because someone suggests your husband is feeling a bit updated with his A+ New Balance running shoes. You bought the darn shoes as his wife. Why are you soo jumpy and willing to do anything that old lady says to you or respond to kind comments about your ,uh, husband. Women and men who seek this constant assurance are seeking an unconditional love that only Christ can give...and it is possible to actually enter that feeling. Say you are a person walking in the faith of Abraham repeatedly and the fight and tug to divide your soul goes away. You will never watch that double souled sitcom again. Hell on earth is when you can't believe it, you are feeling alone and you decide to spit in anyone's food around you so that you can try to feel a closeness of another kind while you resent the word of God all day. You could have just forgiven yourself for cheating on someone you said you loved and remain thankful for the family and children that you have. That sense of unconditional love is real but why would you leave it or that experience? It is not for your spouse or partner to carry that burden of unconditional love. Let us pray they do forgive you as they wish to be forgiven. Cheating on people hurts the cheater as well as the cheated. The bible is in every child. As such, Jesus is a celebration of community, civil society and humane treatment. A human life or donkey cannot supersede the misunderstanding of the authority. Love your neighbor as you would your self and love the Lord. You don't need to understand a community of decidedly abusive people who may have been raised in single parent homes or maybe not but who think it is fun to live in a nexus of a group notion of hurting or an identity they create that causes them to hold on to that group identity above and beyond any hope of settling with someone they claim to love. It could be a LEGO(TM)culture or group identity that begins with a Baptist Sunday School and then adds notions from pop culture as they are presented as they are presented in the media. You see Training Day or the Color Purple and then all of a sudden you are being told this is definitively "your culture" and anything in between the movie and the Baptist Sunday School should be pretty okay. Anyone you believe should understand is to be abused and killed as some kind of issue or threat but you are cheating and hurting people on notions that make very little logical sense if you believe in a love that can be unconditional and a home environment that does not have to be divisive. Maybe Leave It To Beaver can be an Add-on.  Maybe the Color Purple has nothing to do with your mother's land and culture. She might be Hyderabad Orphan from the West Indies  and you are being raised in America so why are you being pressured to adopt an experience or a sexuality that has nothing to do with you except that people want you to know the experience and possibly also live it so that you don't feel unequal to, that is above or free from  their amazing experiences.   The laws of your land and the bible carries a promise that is usually and purposefully color blind. You can understand problems and solutions as having non-descript variables. As such, read Ecclesiastes 4.