Human Absorption

Thus there is such a thing as human absorption. It appears in all the forms of conversion where ever the superior power of one person is consciously or unconsciously misused to influence profoundly and draw into his spell another individual or a whole community. Here one soul operates directly upon another soul. The weak have been overcome by the strong, the resistance of the weak has broken down under the influence of another person. He has been overpowered, but not won over by the thing itself. This becomes evident as soon as the demand is made that he throw himself into the cause itself, independently of the person to whom he is bound, or possibly in opposition to this person. Here is where the humanly converted person breaks down and thus makes it evident that his conversion was effected, not by the Holy Spirit, but by a man, and therefore has no stability.

Bonhoffer- from his book "Life Together"

Human love is directed to the other person for his own sake, spiritual love loves him for Christ's sake. Therefore, human love seeks direct contact with the other person; it loves him not as a free person but as one whom its binds to itself. It wants to gain, to capture by every means; it uses force. It desires to be irresistible, to rule. Right here is the point where spiritual love begins. This is why human love becomes personal hatred when it encounters genuine spiritual love. It nurses and cultivates and ideal(idol), it loves itself, and nothing else in the world. Spiritual love, however, comes from Jesus Christ, it serves Him alone. 

Bonhoffer- from his book "Life Together"