It must be that you can choose hot chocolate or ice cold chocolate milk. What's on the menu? See Mark 4 and hold on.  You will understand when you read Matthew 4.  Which one are you?  The Lord has to know. 

Anyway, touch as an expression of intimacy is natural.  Someone figured it out and asked you to divulge your entire sense of privacy to him with camera angles of your underwear available in back and front. It used be one camera. But now, there is ABC news in your underwear; everywhere.  He is square pants and keeps you safe. He entertains you but S3 is too old in one year so you have to divorce him and get S4 or else you will feel left behind by your friends who will give you that look that says "...its the old one. Do something before everyone at this Pondarosa Buffet  Restaurant has a "save face" break down."

So, your husband is not trying to use you.  In some cultures known as "antebellum", a child is always wondering who her father is in the town. Someone other than the mother decided when it was time to produce another child and to improve the odds, more than one contributor would be used to prevent any waste of time. But, the mother was just as doubtful about the child's parentage. Hence, there was a tendency to be unsure of who you are with and who should come to help if the wagon broke down. With whom do you agree but yourself when the wagon breaks down? You have been so independent and there is only one way to push that wagon. It is your way down the highway. Who gave you the strength? You need to work it backward because you have no difficulty being friends and having conversations that enjoy mutual input until you get into the arena of a home and matrimony.   This culture finds its origins in a time just after the Africans created Diasporic Africans, West Indians and North American colonialists (both free and indentured). They call it Afro-Cuban music for a reason but the musicians are quite professional(black and white) and do not necessarily look so African almost 500 years later. But, you do have third and fourth generation Africans today of all hues and colours and they drink Fanta sometimes or Mountain Dew; of course.   This antebellum culture instills relational doubt and to address the fear that your husband may take his underwear off before he comes home from work, you might put some tape on it or may put some watered down virus on his food. But, you presume that the person with whom he is having relations( if there is such a person) is in your town or your twitter circle that you should hear about a cousin or sister who got a disease helping him while you live in your fear of being used.  Well, he is obviously not with you for your discount brand-name undergarments and how you used to wear them to his house with only an overcoat while courting. He is probably with you because you seem to have certain values so just use him like a touch device every night ( he will respond sometimes with streaming) and it does not mean that you have to part the red sea or risk creating more "bone of your bone" etc. You must already have one child or  possibly two children. Eric Clapton sung a song written by a diasporic person and everybody was encouraged to get out of the stupidity because you are about to be the 17th person charged for administering a noxious substance; so evil. Throw out your bible until you can respect ,with some faith, the man who bought you a ring or some flowers last month and stop watching those music videos that drive you crazy. Anybody can bounce up and down on a pogo stick. Watch the movie Redemption song. Aunt Jemima always put the best in her food. She is in your neighbour's kitchen, she trusts and is trusted.