I am not sure how many women Solomon had to meet before he wrote Proverbs 2,5,6,7,9, 11 and Proverbs 37. Also see Proverbs 17. Your emotions and the chemical stimuli associated with visual attraction usually run out of steam in six months. You need commitment love and not passion love for the long term endeavor. 1st Corinthians 13 is the program for the long term and I am sure Solomon did not have to hesitate to shake his male cousin's hand or show kindness to a friend in fear that someone may question his manliness. I am sure he would not have had to read or ogle page 3 to confirm to himself or others that he was a man or on the right side of the gender fence. But, he would not have hesitated to enjoy fulsomely his wife(1) or his women(1+++ as directed by the Lord).Joseph, Jesus' father, was in line to be a King of Israel but he had one wife. If you have 3-4 wives or women, you need 3-4 agreements. Jesse, his grandfather, seems to have had one wife. There is no fragile sense of self or male identity or of orientation in his telescopic( Proverbs, Psalms and the Torah) view of the world and human nature as it is; telescopic not myopic. I am sure he would have been mindful of customs as they may be in the shifting sands of the world and culture but never fragile in identity. God is not a shifting sand of the world and of human culture. Unfortunately, Solomon is known to have had one wife too many according to his own testimony.