There are billions of people on the planet. There must be one man available for every woman who is interested in a faithful, covenant relationship of mutual commitment. Some people do not want such relationships, they do not know how to maintain them or are happy with or require, by virtue of work hazards, what is referred to unfortunately as disposable pleasures. Some people do want such relationships but have fallen victim to a dissociation that may make calling someone for a coffee a big emotional risk and so they put an ad in the paper and have joined the market of individuals looking for someone to keep promises to them. You could reduce the odds and attend a "promise" school( a Church, Mosque or Synagogue) in your area. Someone asked on Discovery channel about How one could turn domesticated(like cats) humans into undomesticated and angry inhabitants of urban jungles of habitually single people? It could be a twelve month subscription to some magazine maybe that generates a collective mindset and nobody can mention ironing as a joke without causing offence.  Cats usually like and gravitate to humans habitually but they certainly will run from a dog.  Men are not dogs. They are human and no media outlet should objectify or denigrate God's male or female children with a page three female collage or photo or the notion of men being unreasoning creatures. The result is evident and who knows why there are more crosses on the wall than fish in the sea but it is something for really smart people to think about.  The symbol for faith in the Way or belief in Christ was a fish originally. A cross, originally a symbol of death, is now included but ultimately both are now symbols of grace. When the cross hangs on your chest it is seldom perpendicular and moves and swings with grace. You could always deny someone close to you the same grace that you deny yourself but why be so shy? He might have asked you for a coffee by now but you might think he wants to marry you or something, so you ask those half decent men out and let him give you a hug good  night. You never know. He might hope that you never call again. But, he probably knows you are as gracious as he is and you can set a date for the big buffet dinner as a growing couple. There is so much to share and to work out to explain why you just want to be able to be yourself while he respects your cultural nuances and all of those expectations. You win! At least everyone can still understand a smile, text and a belief in a divine creator that stated the obvious truth; that there is a royal law. Take 1st Corinthians 13 and apply it liberally while he was trained to iron his own shirts and he will forgive the salty, burned salsa. But, how do you burn salsa; you ask? Why do people break up when it is soo easy to read and understand 1st Corinthians 13?