American Beauty...It's all relative.

In the old days, you would not change partners so much. This is because the law of averages was roughly the same. The law is still the same and one farmer may have obtained the better balance of the carrot roots for planting and his wife is happier. The other family has even more sheep and the wife is in some flurry of self-chastened disappointment every time everyone meets up for the barn dance or river walk.  The other couple is quite content with fewer sheep and they walk everyday. Who provided the expectations for each soul with respect to cohabited bliss? What was their formative experience? It may not matter how many cows or mountains one can move? It's all just Spanglish(movie) if you can't tell hIn the old days, you would not change partners so much. This is because the law of averages was roughly the same. The law is still the same and one farmer may have obtained the better balance of the carrot roots for planting and his wife is happier. The other family has even more sheep and the wife is in some flurry of self-chastened disappointment every time everyone meets up for the barn dance or river walk.  The other couple is quite content with fewer sheep and they walk everyday. Who provided the expectations for each soul with respect to cohabited bliss? What was their formative experience? It may not matter how many cows or mountains one can move? It's all just Spanglish(movie) if you can't tell him you had a husband before you spelled the word. In some cultures, this is a tradition to ensure that you can be given away as good family flock and everybody agrees on the betrothal day. But, did you agree as the family sheep. You will certainly let your husband know for a very long time if you agreed with this culture; right?  Matthew 19 is the best answer as twinned with 1st Corinthians 13. Otherwise, you could spend almost two hours arguing about under-ripe tomatoes. Your wife says that she can't trust you to pick the fruit and does not know what to think about life together after that revealing act of decisiveness in the grocery store while you were always trained to buy them slightly under ripe so that they would not spoil and become worthy only of compost in 24 hours. A whole hour and a half is wasted on an argument about fruit while you could have enjoyed a good discussion about that really difficult million dollar question on Jeopardy about Adam and Eve or the origins of 1st Kings 13. Now you are both contemplating the future of your blessed union and the grocery store is open tomorrow while he can use that tomato for his after 12 am snack while he stands watch at the front door for more of your cousins who want to know if you are having relations with their betrothed uh man by using the family soap or leaving a finger print on your high school diploma. What is that? What is not done in faith is sin and if you think someone is your husband, be thankful if you get as far as arguing about a fruit or store brand vs. national brand. You could lay a fleece everytime you disagree but relationships are agreeing and disagreeing but mostly agreeing on the law of averages and there is always a football star from your high school about to retire and return home as you hope to seize your chance to be first to his front door and no one owns you. It's hard to understand this but you can buy your own cologne and also decide to obey the rules of the road or just crash that hybrid. You can drive safely and please do. Your husband likes hanging out with you with a hug a day on average.  He told you that he does not own you so that you would be secure in your culture as you are not sure if you want someone to possessively tell you that you are his chattel with all of that controlling, possessive attention or if you want to be respected and feel safe while someone confirms that he is strong enough to be faithful and remind you that you are God's child.  Now, if you believe the Lord said go to Target or Walmart for an unadvertised two for one deal on Ivory(99.99% pure), then you are blessed when you show up and take and receive that unadvertised deal.  You will have to wait to go home and enjoy it. Patience is part of the process. So, keep trusting until you get home. The Ivory is now yours. It won't let you down and will lather UP every-time you open the uh package. It might even impregnate you with invigorating new life and purpose( It's a song that is not unlike the Song of Solomon only when focused and committed to that 99.99% brand) but don't be greedy with the water pressure. But, it's all yours.  The soap is focused and designed accordingly for the said purpose of washing and cleaning. But, respect the directions and add the blessed and kind water for use. It won't work as well or any other way.  Also, you could decide to lay a fleece and wait for an answer and by the time you get to that store, the sale is finished. Take the risk in what you heard.  Tell someone a little older as you hesitate and he or she might fleece you with a fleece although plans are established with much wise counsel. Counsel is employed with obedience. The question is not whether you should receive the deal but maybe you should use your debit card and get cash back to save on an ATM fee sometime. You can add some chips or the really red tomatoes you argued about with what you saved. Now, everybody wins!  Who sets the fleece anyway? Will it be you or the older person who loves to feel authoritative in your life just when it is time to receive? Does her name start with K as in "Kill your blessing. I am jealous. She dated him two years ago but was afraid he would have too many offers when he obeyed God and started working out and looked more like that firefighter I flirt with online ( facebook etc) who has two kids and three ex wives?"  Hmm. Take a step and maybe have a coffee with him and do not let a few sort of green but blessed genetically modified tomatoes rob you of a joyful evening and of rest. What did you really want anyway? What did your mother want? Her need for respect may not be the same as your need for someone who will understand your talents, your need for some experiential patience and the ear to say try the firefighter because you seem to really have a fire in you that you beg someone to fight every night. The red tomato will be just as perfect as you are when you wake up in the morning and the firefighter may have just what you want. Anyway, you got to go to the uh gym while the firefighter mistakes you for a drain pipe layer which you  certainly are not!   Read 1st Kings 13 for an idea in addition to 1st Corinthians 7 and 1st Corinthians 13 with Ecclesiastes 4. It gets cold at night. Stay together.