The estuary of your father's anger or upbringing is not your destination.

Sins of a father or older relative including a mother pass down to the fourth generation.  Well, Jesus must have understood this.  So, to aid in the process He not only comment on familial issues in Mark 3 but He also encouraged His followers to understand that it is okay to break away from any such expectation that may say your parent’s or older relatives’ faith and life expectations, however limited, must be your expectations and limitations.  Their time lines must be your time lines; so they told you.  Evidently, they are working very hard to ensure that you don’t get too excited about applying what you learned in some school where you worked to pay tuition and to graduate with a respected standard. You are not the first relative where they attempted to paint and apply their expectations.  Jesus did say that you should not call anyone father except but your father in Heaven.  Read Psalms 82. This is God’s word to you.

Now, you may meet people who may have graduated from the same schools or state high school educational programs.  But,  they find peace in relationship difficult since they are carrying their father’s emotional luggage around with them. As nice as they may appear at the school dance or on graduation day, inviting you to make buns in the oven ( hot cross buns), they may have a tendency to subconsciously manufacture  some nexus of  dysfunction as if peace is foreign to their expectations of a relationship.  They may even become remorsefully hysterical about the dysfunction they helped to cause with a wrongful accusation against their brother, parent, sister or a spouse (Read Psalms 50).  Just know  it’s not your fault in spite of the fact that you might have the same high school certificate printed on the same type of government paper. Everyone is given a fair chance to get away from the estuary of your well-educated father's introverted anger and self-loathing.  He should have learned to simply forgive his own father, heal and raise his children as he had wished to be raised.   You may find that he tells you habitually that he had to open cans with his teeth and walk 50 miles to school after milking cows. A good and solid farm environment where you were raised is not an excuse to resent your children, their choice to attend youth group, their choice of happiness in the Lord and the very home you gave your children in a cul- de sac.  He should never have left his  father's equatorial country town  if this is how he will behave.