You could be a child of Jehovah and in God's good way if you enjoyed conjugal rights while betrothed. Read Matthew 19. A cermony is not a wedding. The wedding is not the ceremony. Ceremonies and documents do not establish or maintain a union; only the uniting and the personal commitment to remain in a union. We might change our customs but God has not. God is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.

Who has the greater uh sin?  You decide in a rap battle. The couple who united and stayed together as did Adam and Eve, Jacob and Rachel, Abraham and Sara and many others without  a ceremony and  no admixture or adultery or the couple that has a ceremony with their marriage and then ultimately divorce? Its not just money you know. Everybody loves the divorce pictures and the wedding pictures. Just do what you want but be happy with yourself. Have a good ceremony in due course. have the ceremony first and then get married. have the marriage in your parents Timeshare and then have a ceremony one year later. Get engaged(betrothed), wait one to two years before your uh wedding and then have a ceremony on the fourth year. At the end of the day, where is God in your divorce? Read Malachi 2.  I never heard God say he hates the lack of a ceremony ,big or small, so long as there is commitment between them as man and wife.  The two become one flesh.    There is an implicit covenant in what you do. Now, why was God angry with Solomon? He was angry because he had too many wives but it was not that he had more than one. God did not stop warning him until the 300th wife according to most accounts. He was a David until the 400 th wife and  a potential Saul on the 301st. He apparently died apostate with just TOO MANY wives; one wife too many and increasingly stubborn http://bible.cc/1_corinthians/6-16.htm. I would have been content with one wife personally or with 347 maybe so long as I am in his grace. But, you have to enough soldiers to protect soo many or else you will feel disrespected. Also, all 347 have to agree or else they might just cat fight with each other and accuse you all day of cheating and being a mormon or something. So work out the cost of many wives. If you want to ask some man to do that, then you just call him and say "..I would like to be your second or third girlfriend." Then the two of you can work out your terms.  Don't call me for that.   It feels like a good pillow in your soccer shoes and no one is begging you to ring their doorbell by damaging your vehicle to get your attention but does not use their satelite gps phone to call( reach out and touch someone-(AT and T). God does not argue for long but it must have been hard to say no since they were so ingratiating. Most young men with soldiers and palaces would understand and wives make better decorations in all those rooms than plants and paintings anyway.   The fear of God is wisdom and he should have thought cautiously on the 707th wife before moving to the 708th if God was warning him. Its just that God did not want to lose the connection with Solomon and see Solomon's heart moved away from God. Read Psalms 42. Do not judge these young people who may have decided early to be together and to have a child.  They had their ceremony in due season. Shakespeare had his child first during his betrothal and his ceremony followed. They were in the custom of good commitment.  Those young people prepared the field for the family harvest in the 60's and the tractors for the winter sleigh ride.  They are still together 60 years later.  The key is to grow together with shared experiences and growth.  Take a cooking course together. It's so efficient.  Just add water.  Now if you let go of someone because your mother fans and others did not like the ring with 1.0 TDW and you cheated  to cause a break up where he is now with someone else, just let him go.  He just wanted you to be happy as an artist with all your craftiness.  Let go.  Also, buying vast estates in New Brunswick for expanding Eastham might help. It's yours and wouldn't you want all those trees in New Brunswick to be around for a few more million years? Your natural gas dealer and the hydrogen pump installer at the local petrol station carry boxes of Gideon bibles in the trunk for distribution from now on.  When you see Anansie who claims everyone under 43 as his child as some form of pension back up, tell him he left his 911 documentary at Foil's house after painting the daughter's toe nails in coveted hedonic blue colour.