I don't know about you but it seems that if you don't forgive that parent or family member from your past, you may try to recreate their emotional responses, behaviours and reactions in someone with whom you attempt to enjoy an intimate relationship or friendship. There is a pattern, you will see, from relationship to relationship unless you forgive that person. Without that forgiveness, your words and deeds seem set to provoke the reaction you recall in that uh loved one from your past. It might help someone close to you if you uh forgive. They might enjoy spending time with you if they do not have to witness the juvenile attention-seeking and efforts spent seeking a reaction and intended upon recreating that loved one emotionally or they might tell you to just leave them alone because you keep trying to recreate your past. Your past is the past but you will bring it into your present and future if you do not forgive that individual.