You may have thought that no man would uh "get you"; that is understand you.  You can't help yourself to say it because you never had a father, you say. But, God is a father and do want to have that sense of approval so take not only discipleship in the word of God and ministry but maybe some counselling on being an orphan.  David was an emotional orphan. Read Psalms 27.10 and you see how he dealt with it.  The man to whom you say " you don't get me" is a man that you love and who loves you but your hurt in being an emotional orphan leads to just take a child, getting pregnant and then your behaviour and hurt in unhealed emotions leads you to throw the three months of joy down the drain or off the happy track because you were programmed not to expect fidelity but to be left.  So stay with God alone for nine months, being faithful to Him alone and you will let the next man you truly love and cherish uh umm "get you" and you won't give the ring back this time.  What was wrong with a three stone 1K total diamond weight ring in a cartier setting anyway( 50% off but it shouldnt matter since its a gift to you innit love)? Did you see the rings on the hands of women from your mother's generation who are still married today and happy with their modest sign of commitment?  In spite of a ceremony and registry documents for a wedding, you can leave anytime and so can he. It's a choice to be together.  Speak to each other in Psalms, hymns and spiritual things. Avoid the spirit of adultery in Cosmopolitan.  Try Vanity Fair or Real Simple for your airplane reading.  He reads Esquire or the Atlantic Monthly.  The only difference with ceremonies is the cost and the pictures and the public embarrassment since you sent everyone a piece of cake and they will think what a stupid couple to break up after all I or we spent to keep them cuddled at least for five years.  He must have figured out her cousin had sex with her the night before the ceremony since it was her last night as a single woman and that was ok in her culture since her future husband was just a man in her culture; not a human being to be treated with the courtesies one affords a friend or loved one.  For instance, if you or your spouse leave your Motorolla android III phone (with universal dock included with small speakers and for charging)(sexy!!!) at home by mistake, you would think that a well-meaning adult spouse over 35 would use a pay phone or office phone to communicate the mishap.  You have been together for at least nine months.  She can't stand the mobile phone not being answered when she calls her uh man and has breakdowns if he leaves it on the car seat while driving to Hatfield where his office is located ( 20 minute drive).  Staying together is  a choice every minute.  Marry the good friend and pray as well (Proverbs 3:5-6) about your choice but you must know a good friend to whom you are sincerely attracted or does your brain shut down because of his eye lashes or that v6 -0000- vehicle or BeeEMMDouble U and so long as he looks at you with those eyes, any thought of his qualities as a friend are voided?  Steaks are best barbecued and not cooked in a microwave  although microwaves are faster.  Your relationships should follow the same logic as purchasing and preparing a good steak.  Take your time in getting the best result. Have patience.  You grew up with microwave popcorn but there is a generation that knows stovetop popcorn in those little foil containers.