There was a woman who chose bitterness over reconciliation.  There is another woman who chose bitterness while pretending that someone she never met was in a relationship with her and had used her. In the case of the second woman, the victim who was not in any relationship with her is now no longer with us. She had put an insurance policy on his life and was the first to show up at the funeral.   He was an unfortunate victim of an ego.    In the case of the first woman, she wrote by email or letter but never responded after her offer  to meet for coffee was acknowledged. It was too cold at the Luton Starbucks that day and she seems to have wanted nothing else but to refuse her own opportunity to heal and let him go because that is all he wanted.  He met someone else who was self-accepting and willing to wipe his eyes and remove a piece of lint in his eye lashes instead of running from the lint and being judgmental.  The opportunity to reconcile remained but she was warned not to harass the individual.