Have you heard the story of the father who threatened to disown his son if he did not get good public school grades in A levels or grade 13?  The son obtained reasonable grades and went to Law School eventually.  The father did not think about anything except of his own fears and insecurities with respect to his son's prayerful graduation.  He was afraid of loosing something as is indicative of people who come from truly impoverished mindsets.    After the son graduated, the father said to his siblings "..Let's use all of our resources to hold him back since he might not be related since he graduated" and it was the only family represented in that particular year who decided to abuse their own family member for actually graduating with a result that was above average.  It carried on for many years until someone realized that it should not have been an identity issue for any family to witness a relative graduate in the year 2000 unless the family was unable to confirm their own lineage or chose not to claim it confidently and why did they have a breakdown after a law school graduation when the relative had already graduated from four good schools; including high schools (grade 12 at one school and Grade 13 at another quite diligent school)?