Can the spirit of competition in realms of life where competition is not meaningful co-exist with the fruit of the Holy spirit? For instance, who would compete over the approval of a grandparent when she approves of every grandchild or young relative that is engaged in pursuing their heart's desire or their inspiration?  The grandparent's goal is to demonstrate God's love. She is not interested in insincere hugs, love or feigned notions of family; notions of family stifled by childish stabs of competition. You recall that relative who said he or she is very competitive when you were just making toast for an aunt as requested.    It's okay to be competitive if you are playing tennis or basketball for example but the importance of family should always supersede competition on the tennis or basketball court with a family member.