You had the feeling of Perfect love...You feel this with the entire audience when you watch movies you like; such a fan of your own feelings!

You had a feeling of perfect love when you met someone at 16 or 19 who was on the same page as yourself with respect to most of life. You met someone with whom you had  a similar feeling when you were 14. But, you were too young to get married.  You will also notice that there are a lot of people who appreciate the movie “The Vow” or “The Kingdom of Heaven”.  You do not have enough time in life to make every individual who appreciates such movies and who is of the opposite gender your life partner. But, they must understand what you understand and appreciate most of what you appreciate.  There is not a lot of time. They say that in movies quite a lot. The feeling you have with such individuals was first experienced in a sand box with a member of the opposite gender. You were 4 or 5 years old and you were the last two individuals in the sand box once or twice a week. You had the same feeling at 14 and 16.  You do not have to look for the person you met at 5 years old to believe the feeling. You could appreciate anyone and enjoy a relationship but, you must recognize that a relationship is a mutual decision to grow with someone and to spend time with someone, forgiving, giving, receiving and communicating.  You could do that with anyone but you decided that you would not forgive yourself for failing to appreciate someone some time ago when the test for longevity in relationship came to the fore. You went with someone else to the Ball while you resented your sandbox friend for choosing to finish his home work or pray to the Lord for direction. That is ok. The point is that there are many sandbox friends around you that you can enjoy. But, you have not enjoyed them since you are not yourself; living in a self-rejected and self-protective state of mind. Why did he not do exactly what you wanted and come out to play as requested? You could have waited for that "sand box" friend at 16. He had not decided anything. But, you did in the end. You kept rebuffing him.  He said he was able to play tomorrow or you were told he chose someone else to attend the local piano concerto but he did not. The Cosmopolitan outlook and its strategies are written from a point of view of anger. If you are angry, you cannot help but agree with the “them” vs “us” stratagems in relationship in Cosmpolitan. But, a true relationship that is loving and balanced is based on 1^st Corinthians 13 where there is a continual “US”. Appreciate the next person with whom you have that inexplicable feeling that says they share the same appreciation for  4/4 timing in good pop songs.  It is possible. There is not a lot of time. You can only live for 100 years approximately. Why spend it turning your home into a cosmopolitan?